Understanding Men:
The Online Course That Finally Explains Why They Pull Away, What They’re Thinking, & How To Connect With Passion and Attraction Every Time
START UNDERSTANDING MEN NOW
“What is he thinking?!”
Ever wish you could just crawl into his head and find out?
Whether you’re single, dating, in a relationship, or married, trying to understand men is one area where you’re, frankly, exhausted.
Maybe...
- You had a great date but he didn’t call or text you back. 😕
- You’ve been dating for a while, you finally begin to let your guard down, then he suddenly starts acting aloof and unavailable. 😰
- You’ve been together for months or even years but at times, he just randomly turns off the warmth and shuts down. 😣
- You had great sex but afterwards he acts disinterested, as if you never reached those heights of intimacy. 😟
- You moved in together but then everything changed and while you’re “closer” than ever, you feel further apart. 😩
- You’ve been married for so long that life has become routine and every attempt you make to reignite the passion seems to end the same way: he’s back on the couch, ignoring you, AGAIN. 😪
And you simply don’t get it.
Because you’re the best date, girlfriend, and partner IN THE WORLD.
When life throws him a curveball, you want to be there to support him. You’d listen, understand, and love him up without question.
So then why does it seem like the more you lean in, the more he pulls away, shuts down, or simply won’t talk to you? It’s honestly baffling.
All you know is that you’re TIRED of asking for more only to be met with him leaving the room, emotionally disengaging, and/or full-on ghosting you.
WHY DO MEN DO THIS? WHY?!
It’s frustrating, painful, and stressful… and I get it.
Not only do I ‘get it,’ but I also know that you’re not alone.
And I want YOU to know that this isn’t you, you’re not broken, you’re not crazy, and your needs aren’t “too much.”
The relationship you really want with him, the one with all the juicy intimacy you could ever dream of, is MORE than possible. It’s simply a matter of science. ;-)
But the problem is, what you’ve been doing, like...
✖ Overcommunicating your feelings in the hopes that will change his behavior,
✖ Asking HIM to explain, shine light, or provide the clarity and security you crave,
✖ Overanalyzing, overthinking, or trying to make sense of it all on your own (or with your girlfriends)...
… will NEVER provide you with the insight (or peace) you need, for two reasons:
HE is different from YOU — this is, again, biological and hormonal — so no matter HOW much you try to “make sense” of it on your own or with your girlfriends, it will never quite ‘click’ on an intuitive level
HE is different from YOU — this is, again, biological and hormonal — so no matter HOW much you try to “make sense” of it on your own or with your girlfriends, it will never quite ‘click’ on an intuitive level
Believe it or not, he’s 100% capable of giving you ALL the…
✔ clarity,
✔ communication,
✔ love,
✔ attention,
✔ space,
✔ connection,
✔ intimacy, and
✔ romance
...that you desire.
TRULY. You don’t have to spend hours and days of your life spinning in anxiety, wondering what he’s thinking, or wishing he would just give you the positive attention you crave without having to work so hard for it.
But in order to flip the script you have to dig deeper into understanding HIM in a way that he may not even understand himself.
Because when YOU get what his behaviors really mean, and how your perspective, actions, and reactions impact your relationship —
That’s when you’ll crack the code on:
➔ why HE pulls away and
➔ how to get him back (and as the best version of himself).
Here’s The Bottom Line:
We can’t expect our partners to act the way we act, think the way we think, deal with stress the way we do, or love the way we do.
If we do, we’ll always end up disappointed, confused, and hurt.
Because men and women are biologically different, and how we act, think, cope, and love is therefore foundationally different too.
It is THIS expectation — that we should be the same — that leads to so many misunderstandings and unnecessary pain and disconnection in our relationships.
Men pulling away is the greatest problem in relationships today.
But when we women UNDERSTAND it *and* know HOW to address it proactively — EVERYTHING CHANGES.
I know this because I live this and I’ve seen THOUSANDS of women change their relationships — whether single and dating or married for years — by cracking this very code.
Hi, I’m Lauren Gray, relationship expert, coach, and co-CEO of MarsVenus.com — which I run along with my dad, John Gray, the author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus (a.k.a. the #1 best selling relationship book of all time).
Since that book was initially published in 1992, there have only been more scientific developments regarding men and women and their unique biological needs and differences. This provides a new and exciting foundation that can help us make sense of the opposite sex.
And I’ve made it my mission, along with my dad John Gray, to further uncover the “why” behind how men and women relate and continue to develop practical and effective strategies to help us live optimally and grow in love.
This is why I created Understanding Men: The Online Course That Finally Explains Why They Pull Away, What They’re Thinking, & How To Connect With Passion and Attraction Every Time.
START UNDERSTANDING MEN NOW
Here’s what you’ll learn when you join today:
Module 1: The REAL reason men pull away (it’s not what you think)
In this module, you’ll learn:
- The biological factor even HE doesn’t know about that explains everything and instantly takes the pressure off
- Why men tend to close off or run away the very moment you get close and feel like you’ve had an intimate breakthrough
- The 4 Critical Factors that influence how often he pulls away, because this looks different for every man, and knowing will help you find and strike the balance in your relationship
- Why some men pull away and others don’t — this will explain precisely why not all men pull away equally and the surprising reason some men don’t pull away but really should!
Module 2: Understand how you may be pushing him away (and how to stop)
In this module, you’ll learn:
- The 4 indirect, well-meaning ways you may be sabotaging your connection and the counter-intuitive way to turn that all around
- The Right Time to seek connection, intimacy, attention, and love so that you actually get everything you want and need from him, with ease
- What NOT to do that most women do by accident, simply because we’re so accustomed to relating with other women
Module 3: How to keep attracting him back with passion and motivation (so he’s showing up for you all the ways you want him to)
In this module, you’ll learn:
- What to START doing that will set the mood for love and intimacy while he’s “away,” and inspire him to spring back to you with plenty of love-fuel in the tank
- How to motivate him to return to you, please you, and support you with all that you want and need
- What will truly spark passion in him (instead of irritability) so that when you reach out or ask for help, you feel loved instead of like you’re annoying him
Module 4: Reconnect in intimacy to create an unbreakable bond (so every time you’re together, you can bask in the glow of Soul Mate love)
In this module, you’ll learn:
- 4 ways to open up to love again and again (even when it’s scary) whether you’re single, dating, in a relationship, or married for years
- What to do when he’s ready to reconnect and go back to normal but you’re not because sometimes, after he’s pulled away, you may need time to warm up again
- The little things that can make all the difference (that I personally do in my relationship) so that over time you actually grow together in love, trust and intimacy
The truth is — him pulling away can bring you together or pull you apart — it’s all a matter of what YOU do on purpose that will nurture your connection back to one of loving, intimate relating.
Understanding Men is for you IF…
You're single...
and getting ready to date again, but you’re scared and want to feel more prepared
You're dating...
and becoming weary of all the mixed signals and ‘ghosting’ and wondering if you should just throw in the towel (don’t!)
You're in a relationship...
and want to know how to create more intimacy without irritating him or pushing him away
You're living together...
yet feel disconnected, like either you’re insecure or he’s moody and you don’t know how to reconnect in passion and love again
You're married...
or you’ve been together for a long time, and you want to get that passionate spark back but you’re not sure how
You're wondering if the relationship you want is even possible...
you want a friend, a lover, and a partner but it feels like you always end up doing more of the heavy lifting
"Before this, I thought I was alone in having these relationship difficulties but now I know I’m not! Lauren explains exactly what you are feeling: I would often start watching a video and think.......ah but what about this?......and then all of a sudden that issue would come up and be explained too!!!"
- Jenna Cook
"Lauren brings awareness and understanding into your life that creates life-changing shifts that will benefit all of your relationships. Her style satisfies both the logical person, with all of her scientific explanations, as well as the intuitive person. She explains biologically why we react in certain ways. By understanding the science behind my instinctive reactions, I’ve been able to make better conscious choices for myself and improve my relationship with my husband."
- Lia Venet
"When I joined Lauren’s course, I knew it would be good. Lauren is genuine, super-insightful and funny. There was no way I wasn’t going to love it. I’ve been a fan of Lauren’s blogs for years. What I didn’t expect is quite how much I’d learn. I’ve really connected with the MarsVenus philosophies for a while, so I thought much of this would be a review. Boy - was I wrong! I did not expect to learn completely NEW stuff."
- Nadia Ansari
"You should know that Lauren understands men and women so well! It's a pleasure to go through the course and feel so identified with her stories. I felt so understood."
- Chiara
"Before this, I thought I was alone in having these relationship difficulties but now I know I’m not! Lauren explains exactly what you are feeling: I would often start watching a video and think.......ah but what about this?......and then all of a sudden that issue would come up and be explained too!!!"
- Jenna Cook
"Lauren brings awareness and understanding into your life that creates life-changing shifts that will benefit all of your relationships. Her style satisfies both the logical person, with all of her scientific explanations, as well as the intuitive person. She explains biologically why we react in certain ways. By understanding the science behind my instinctive reactions, I’ve been able to make better conscious choices for myself and improve my relationship with my husband."
- Lia Venet
"When I joined Lauren’s course, I knew it would be good. Lauren is genuine, super-insightful and funny. There was no way I wasn’t going to love it. I’ve been a fan of Lauren’s blogs for years. What I didn’t expect is quite how much I’d learn. I’ve really connected with the MarsVenus philosophies for a while, so I thought much of this would be a review. Boy - was I wrong! I did not expect to learn completely NEW stuff."
- Nadia Ansari
"You should know that Lauren understands men and women so well! It's a pleasure to go through the course and feel so identified with her stories. I felt so understood."
- Chiara
Listen. I KNOW that you DO more than enough already.
→ You don’t need the extra strain of trying to “get” him on top of it all.
→ You don’t need to exhaust yourself to create the connection you crave.
→ You don’t need to spin yourself in circles trying to get your needs met either.
That’s why this program is NOT about working HARDER on your relationship(s).
So if you’re thinking “UGH, I’m tired of always being the one who has to do all the emotional labor and heavy lifting and trying! When is he gonna pick up the slack?”
Here's my promise to you:
If you pull back on 90% of your relationship efforts - just stop - and focus on the 10% of efforts I give you, you’ll feel 100% empowered and fed by your relationship(s).
I know this sounds crazy and counter intuitive, but everything about HIM is counter intuitive -- because he’s NOT like you.
When you understand men from this new perspective and shift your strategies accordingly, everything in your relationship(s) will become WAY easier.
It’s almost like magic the way he’ll…
- Eagerly shower you with all the attention and affection you want,
- Come back for intimacy more and more, filling your love tank on the regular,
- Respond to you with more confidence, generosity, and selflessness
- Start taking better care of himself to show up as his best for you.
Plus, once you have this pulling away problem nailed, your other relationship problems begin to slowly disappear…
- Your communication will be firing on all cylinders almost effortlessly
- You’ll feel closer to him than ever before
- That spark you may have lost will be reignited
- He’ll open up and show you how much he loves you
- Pursuing, chasing, or wondering about men will be a thing of the past
- You’ll attract and engage with men who are genuinely interested and show it
- He’ll shift back into the happiest version of himself, the guy you once fell for
“But what if he doesn’t pull away enough???”
Yes. This is a common phenomenon for men
who are more in touch with their feminine side.
If you’re a woman in a relationship with a man who tends to be overly sensitive, needy, always available, and simply put: doesn’t pull away, this program will also help you. When you learn what you can do to encourage him to express his independence more, and give you (and the relationship) space and room to breathe...
...your communication, connection, intimacy, (and SEX) will vastly improve.
"Let me start by saying that I’m a personal development junkie.
The first time I read Men Are From Mars, I was probably a teenager. That said, all my self-help and relationship binge-reading didn’t stop me from leaping into relationships where I either felt constantly smothered or entirely dropped, or avoiding relationships altogether.
All my adult life (thus far), I attracted men that were either unavailable OR so needy and clingy that my own autonomy felt threatened. To be honest, I had become jaded and confused about men, and started to wonder if there were any out there who had feelings but not so many that they sucked all the air out of the room...
I also didn’t know what healthy love could, should, or would look like. No one modeled this for me growing up. But what I did know was that I didn’t want to walk around feeling anxious about relationships and not having the confidence to open my heart again.
Thanks to Lauren’s program, I now have the science and skills I need to protect my happiness and the understanding I need to partner again. I now feel like I “get men” and know what needs I can expect and ask a partner to meet. Also, she gives you so many lists!!! And scripts! I love lists and scripts. :-)
Trust me, you will review this material again and again. I finally know how to create the love of my dreams. Buy this program NOW and do not look back."
- Jamie
Here’s what SELF-HELP INDUSTRY LEADERS have to say about my tried-and-true course!
“With How to Get More Me-Time, Lauren helps a new generation of modern women to find increasing fulfillment at work and at home. Not an easy thing these days. However, I am certain that if you apply these new recipes for personal success, that you too will create a lifetime of love and happiness. Prepare to enjoy the relationships in your life like you never have before.”
- Jack Canfield, author of The Success Principles TM and co-creator of the bestselling Chicken Soup for the Soul ® series.
"Lauren delivers brilliant, fresh knowledge in an engaging way. How To Get More Me-Time is a Masterclass for making your relationships work, feeling happy, and finding peace of mind."
- Marci Schimoff, best-selling author of Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul and Happy For No Reason.
"Whether you’re new to MarsVenus or a long-time fan, you will learn brand new insights and tools. Lauren’s message speaks directly to women of all ages. She is profoundly wise and at the same time completely practical. With every module you will discover a new skill that you can immediately apply to improve your life and relationships. With Lauren’s help you can begin to live the life you deserve."
- John Gray, #1 NY Times best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus and Beyond Mars and Venus.
You want MORE from your relationship(s).
More affection, time, romance, support, communication, all of it!
And you’ve tried everything to get it, right? Giving more, complimenting him, boosting him up, sexy outfits, remembering his favorite things, flirty texts, showing him what a great catch you are, prioritizing him, listening to him, asking him questions, modeling the kind of love you want to receive and MORE!
I’m exhausted just thinking about the way I used to approach relationships!
Well, what if I told you that you could have ALL the love you want, and it starts with you doing less?
It starts with you shifting where you put your energy and effort so that you get more out than you put in, rather than the other way around. That’s the secret.
Shift your lens from him and his needs to YOU and YOUR needs.
This sounds counterintuitive, I get it. But here’s a peak into why it works:
Whether you tend to be what I call a “Venus in Blue,” and YOU...
- Are used to marching to the tune of your own drummer.
- Prefer to do things on your own and hate asking for help. #missindependent
- Own that you’re a Type A personality, but maybe scare some men away while you’re at it...
Or you’re what I call a “Venus in Pink” and YOU...
- Hate spending time without your guy. #togetherforever
- Don’t really enjoy indulging in alone time.
- Find yourself rattled when your guy wants time without you...
We’ve got you covered with You-We-Me Time™ because it’s designed to help you feel good in a relationship no matter which way you sway! And I’ll be there walking you through the system, each step of the way, with 6 weeks of email guidance, motivation, and encouragement!
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This course will teach you a proven system to enhance your HAPPY so your man can step into his role and make you even HAPPIER. True (love) story.
Here’s what you’ll get when you join!
Immediate access to the entire You-We-Me-Time ™ System
($1000 value)
20+ step-by-step, entertaining, upbeat videos
($1200 value)
20+ Worksheets for practical implementation and skill building
($800 value)
Epic Answer Vault reveals all the group coaching Q&A from past live sessions
($600 value)
6 POP quizzes for memory retention and review
($200 value)
6 months access so you can refresh, review, or just go at your own perfect pace
(priceless)
PLUS, if you sign up now, you’ll also receive these bonuses!
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These suggestions will help you come up with easy, fun, nurturing activities that are designed to totally replenish you hormonally.
75 WE-TIME ACTIVITIES!
Whether you’re single or in a relationship you’ll get amazing ideas for activities you can do to fulfill the We-Time hormones and feel even more loved, supported and relaxed in your life.
TOTAL ACCESS to my BONUS ME-TIME VIDEO SERIES! Including…
- Why Me-Time is Critical For Your Calendar! It’s science, girlfriend!
- How to Make Your Cycle Your Greatest Ally. Because actually, it is!
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You have questions? I have answers!
How am I going to learn? Do you have to attend the classes LIVE or are they recordings?
I don’t have a ton of free time right now, is this a good time to sign up for the course?
Does my partner have to take the course too in order for it to work for us?
This program may work for other women, but what if it doesn’t work for me?
Is this going to be worth my time?
This sounds great! What happens after I purchase?
I’m single and don’t currently have a man in my life. Will I be able to benefit from this course?
My partner and I already have plenty of "me" time. I’m frustrated and hurt at the lack of “us” time and I keep pushing him away further. Will this program "fix" what’s wrong with us?
Can I share my login with my family and friends? They would really benefit from this!
If you have any other questions, don’t hesitate to email [email protected] and our friendly MarsVenus team will get back to you ASAP.
With love,
P.S. I know what it’s like to do relationships the “wrong” way - ending up overworked, under-satisfied, and generally unfulfilled. I’ve seen this firsthand (in my early days of dating) and time and time again with my clients, readers and students. That’s the reason I’ve put this course together. I believe SO much in the quality and value of How to Get More Me-Time - and I’m SO confident that it will help you become happier in your life and relationship that I will guarantee it. If you buy this course, go through the first few videos, do the homework, and still don’t learn anything new, or see and feel a difference - I will give you a full refund. That’s a 100% Money-Back Guarantee within 14 Days of Purchase with proof that you’ve done the worksheet exercises.
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